When Hurts, Habits, & Hang-ups Hold You Back From Making the Decisions How Can You Regain Control?
Updated: Nov 9, 2022
Did you know that as an emotionally intelligent person no one can say anything to you that will hurt you today? Here? Now?
But Hurts, Habits, and Hang-ups are usually from past experiences that have nothing to do with here and now. Someone you don't know personally does not have the power to rev you up and hurt your feelings that easily or cause you to bring out judgment about them.
But what are you telling yourself in this area that you feel attacked in? I remember not trusting people if they were angry with me because I didn't know what to do with their anger, which was residual from childhood neglect and abuse. So why was I feeling attacked by this person I didn't know? Because I had stories in my head that subconsciously reminded me of the past and initiated how I felt as a child. Awareness is powerful, especially when you can realize that you are grown up and can take care of yourself now. (and your inner child can trust you to take care of you too.)
If someone says something to me that hurts my feelers today, this is a huge gift, it's a gift for me to look inside and see what I am telling myself on that topic, or maybe it's just the way I am feeling because of a past feeling, that's not really real at this moment, but recognized and still a little raw.
I have defects of character just like most of us who are aware of ourselves recognize, I strive for reflection, not perfection.
Just last week I felt like I should apologize to someone because something came out in a way that was not intended, before I could take action, however, I received such an evil message from this person with lots of judgment and unasked-for advice, in an email that ended something like don't bother to respond because I won't answer, and at that moment I thanked God as I realized it was the perfect intervention, because when someone shows me who they are I believe them.
When People Show You Who They Are You Have Two Choices.
Give Them Grace and Wait to See If It Happens again If it does remember to Do it Once it's on Me, Do it Twice, I stayed, and it's on me.
Believe them and think about them no more. For acquaintances that treat me badly as above after I paid for a service.
My new book is available. I am excited to see it on amazon, the link is below.
It's a proud moment in my life to make this announcement, a little scary too because I have never really put the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the reality of how it was, what happened, how I thought, and the principles I use that changed everything!
I believed with all my heart that I would be obese my entire life due to the family messages I received as a child. Those hurts, created habits, and hang-ups that no longer control my life, and I realize today that no matter what, we have a choice to be or not to be, as Shakespeare said. But when I was trapped in a 357.8-pound body, it did not feel like there was any way out.
I am excited about this new book; It tells you what happened, what it was like, and what I did emotionally without food lists and diet regimens to change my life.
Each Section of the book has a Q&A Section where you can journal some of your own healing answers. Where you can go inside and say why do I do that? Find out whether what you believe is true or not.
I associated love with my relationships with many things because of what was missing, or at least what I thought was; how we remember things change everything.
Even after two gastric bypass procedures, I was still gaining weight, and I didn't understand why; I believed with all my heart I had done everything I could not be obese, or I thought I had, through hundreds of diets, different therapies, and exercise programs. However, I was still considered obese by the charts and gained a little each month.
“When I had my first gastric bypass in 1984, I believed it would make me thin forever. It didn’t. Within a year, I regained the original 60 pounds plus, over the next few years gained an astronomical 357.8 pounds. So, with my inner soul calling me again, I played the insanity card, had another bypass in 2001, lost 203 pounds, and made the local paper… only to gain back more than 114 pounds. Ashamed, isolated, and hiding out, I discovered principles to lose and keep the weight off. And I know what I speak. I’ve kept the weight off for nearly 20 years.”
Finding peace and inner strength with no blame, no shame, and no judgment in a world that wants to find fault with almost every sentence spoken is a challenge in itself. But it is possible.
Today I am blessed to be a sought-after keynote speaker, transformational coach, and author who doesn't have a diet plan that doesn't work because I know that people know what to eat. I help people be able to make the decisions as a result of overcoming their, hurts. habits and hangups that support their goals and align them with what they genuinely want, become who they were meant to be, and find peace with food, other people, and everything else they are challenged with because I know that how we do one thing is how we do everything.
Not only did this change my life, my body, and the way my relationships were, but it also changed my success in my career and everything else I do; foundational principles do that; they are the core of every area of life.
Echo Laymon Pelster-Motivational Keynote Speaker 🐝Lifestyle, Mindset & Empowerment Coach For Lasting Weight Loss 🐝Best Selling Author 🐝Practice Management Specialist For Weight Loss Professionals🐝Certified Health & Nutrition Coach🐝Author of The Twisted Love of Food Addiction